I AM writing with regard to all those who seem to think that all parents are irresponsible. Well, I can assure you that this is not the case.

Ten months ago my parental skills were tested to the full when my 17-year-old son got into trouble. When we went to court, I made it clear both to my son and the court that I condemned his behaviour. A fine was imposed, which I was ordered to pay.

What I totally disagree with -- not, may I add, the money -- is the fact that the order is in my name, which makes it my debt, and yet it's not my crime. My son at the age of 17 should have been made responsible.

I have worked hard with my son over these matters and now, at the age of 18, we went back to court. He now has his own income, and agreed to come along to court to show he was responsible enough to pay for his own actions. The court refused to accept this.

I came out of court that day totally confused as to what a parent was supposed to do.

As a responsible parent, I just don't know what to tell my younger sons of nine and seven when the system so easily passes the blame.

No wonder there are so many young repeat offenders, when this is the message the court sends out. In other words: "Do wrong and we'll make someone else pay."

(Name and address supplied)